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Jan 05 2018

Behind the Scenes

Behind the Scenes of your, “I Do.”

Have you ever wondered what it was like to be the Civil Celebrant behind the scenes of your “I Do”? We are the lucky ones! The official people who stand alongside the bridal party with the special job of authorising the ceremony. Personally I think being a Civil Celebrant is one of the best jobs in the wedding industry and definitely one of the most important ones too. I decided to be a Civil Celebrant because I sincerely enjoy working with people to create memorable events, believe that weddings are so much fun and most of all, I love, Love!


Being organised is the Number #1 Rule! In the lead up to the wedding day, there is lots of information to collect, paperwork to be filled out and script writing to focus on. Come, Ceremony day, it’s important to arrive early to the wedding venue, set up, complete a sound check and meet the venue staff. If the Groom is there early I like to check in with him and see how he is feeling. Even the bravest man can be full of nerves on his big day which is why I think it’s important to touch base and check to see if there are any last minute changes we need to adapt to.

Favourite Moments in a Ceremony

My first favourite moment in a ceremony is watching the Bride walk down the aisle. I love seeing her face as she is greeted by her guests and I take notice of how she is holding onto the person leading her in. Body language can say a lot about how she is feeling about the upcoming ceremony. After that observation, I look across at the Groom and watch him, watching her. Have you ever watched the Groom as his Bride walks down the aisle? Wow oh Wow, it is such a beautiful moment!

My second favourite part of the ceremony is sharing their love story with the guests. During the lead up to the ceremony I ask the Bride and Groom lots of questions about how they met, fell in love, what they do for fun and all those quirky stories lovers share. We package it up and agree on what we will mention in the ceremony. Delivering it to the guests can be a whole lot of fun. Sometimes people laugh, cheer loudly and in many situations, smile brightly. This is one of the most memorable moments of the celebration because it is personal and connects the guests to the couple.

Going with the Flow

Celebrants must be skilled at being adaptable and able to problem solve. Unexpected situations can occur during the wedding process which means we need to think quick, make amendments and keep the ceremony flowing smoothly all while making sure the bride and groom are kept calm and assured that everything will be ok.

At one of my 2017 weddings, a unexpected shower of rain hit the venue five minutes before the bride arrived which meant we had to switch into Plan B very quickly and relocate the ceremony, 50 guests and 20 chairs across the park to an undercover area. Once we were set-up, I returned to the waiting bride and explained that this was the best option. Her heart was set on the park venue but after gentle problem solving, she understood the rain wasn’t stopping anytime soon and that we couldn’t delay the ceremony any longer which meant the new location was the best option. Once we began the ceremony it was important to acknowledge the quick change and thank the guests for assisting me with moving the chairs.

Creating Moments

One of my business mottos is ‘Creating Moments that will last a lifetime’, and I stand by this in my ceremony delivery. It’s important to me to make an impact on your special day, and I’d like the couple to remember the moment they said “I DO” forever.

My Advice

Talk to anyone who has planned a wedding, and they will say that it is harder and more expensive than they thought. My advice for this process is to think about what YOU want and don’t work yourself into a frantic mess based on other peoples ‘must have’ list. Understand what is important to you, if you want to follow tradition or not (not always necessary) and set yourself a budget early.
If top quality alcohol and food is important to you, have it and loose the big fancy floral arrangements. If you don’t want to waste money on elaborate invitations, don’t bother! If you prefer a relaxed backyard wedding over a hotel function room, lock it in!

Create the wedding celebration that fits best to your beliefs, lifestyle and budget. With the right close family and friends around you, what else do you really need?

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Let Love Rule-Tamm Barker Celebrant
Jan 01 2017

Let Love Rule

 “Let Love Rule” was chanted by the masses of supporters rallying on Australian streets proudly wearing rainbow coloured clothes and passionately lifting banners toward the sky. The scenes were emotional and honest. Everyone there truly believed in the cause. This powerful quote along with social media posts using the trending hashtag #loveislove and #marriageequality lead the charge in the months leading up to 7th December and finally we have an answer.  Yes, Yes, Yes Australia! Congratulations on finally joining the 25 other countries around the world and standing up for Marriage Equality. What a momentous change in our countries history!

What a Day. What a Day. What a day in history. What a day for love. What a day to put your arms around same-sex couples and say we love you, we respect you, you have all the rights that everyone else has had for so long - now we’re all at one.” our Prime Minister, Malcolm Turnball was quoted as saying, and yes Malcolm you are right!


My Personal Views

At the very beginning of the voting process I was honest with friends, clients and followers on my beliefs and which way I would vote. I proudly supported Marriage Equality. However, I communicated on my social media pages the following “I don’t believe in telling people which way to vote! Whether you vote, Yes or No is your business, not mine.


I wouldn’t tell you who to vote for in Political Elections so I won’t start now. What is important is that we’re all aware of what to do when the paperwork arrives and commit to doing so. I’m choosing to vote YES because I want to”. I am a proud Yes voter, but I believe it is not my place to force my opinion or political push on others, so I kept my #loveislove posting to my business channels only.


Something else that has occurred a lot in the last few months is when I tell people I’m a Civil Celebrant they instantly reply, “Well won’t you be busy if the law gets passed” as if it’s a ‘get rich money making scheme’. This is not why I chose to become a Celebrant. I am not in this industry to make a quick fix of cash off the new law. Yes, I will happily officiate same-sex marriages, but I am accepting this role because I believe in love, marriage, commitment and equality. I love my role and value the importance of standing up front close to the couple who are making a further step to legalise their commitment. That is truly an honour which I take very seriously.

There are a large number of Celebrants who have spoken out against same-sex marriage and openly admitted they will not officiate their ceremonies. That is their choice, and I respect that we are all entitled to our own opinion.

I’m just very happy that ehe people and the power have spoken…..


“Let Love Rule”

x Tammy

I’ll leave you with this video of the moment in Parliament just after the Bill was passed in the House of Representatives.




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